Are you going to date a girl this Sunday? And you want her to have a good impression of you. But you do not have the clue where to start and what topics should you pick to talk about.
Not every guy has the charm to impress a girl. Some find it difficult to even start with the conversation with a girl.
First dates are often awkward, but they do not have to be. You just need to know what to do and how to make the experience greatly.
In this article, you will find a list of things to talk about with a girl on a date so you can avoid turning into the classic first date nightmare.
How do you keep a conversation going with a girl on a date?
There is nothing worse than going on a date with someone you are not interested in. The conversation is stilted. You cannot think of anything to say, and the minutes feel like hours.
But what if the person you are on a date with is someone you really like? How do you keep the conversation flowing so that you have a great time?
Here are some tips to help you keep a conversation going with a girl on a date:
First, try to learn about her interests and what she likes to talk about. This will give you something to work with in terms of topics of conversation which you are about to read ahead.
If you can find common ground and things that you are both interested in, it will be much easier to keep the conversation flowing.
Share stories. A good story can help break the ice and get things started between two people. But be sure to keep it light-hearted and appropriate for the situation.
Women love stories, and by engaging her in conversation with tales of your own, you will keep her interested and invested in getting to know you better.
Listen! One of the best ways to keep the conversation flowing is to simply listen. Really pay attention to what she is saying and ask follow-up questions. It will help the conversation flow more smoothly. Plus, it shows that you are interested and invested in getting to know them better.
I have written a great piece on ‘how to be a better listener in a relationship.’ you can check out if you want to improve yourself.
Last but not the least, keep the conversation rolling by asking questions about the things she is saying.
18 things to talk about with a girl on a date
When it comes to dating, the pressure is usually on the guy to make things happen. However, this does not mean that the girl cannot do her part to keep things interesting.
If you are wondering what you should talk about with a girl on a date, here are 18 prominent topics to choose from –
Culture is always a great topic to discuss with a girl on a date. It can be used as a way to get to know her better and learn about her background and interests.
You can discuss the various cultures you are familiar with and ask questions about the ones your date is familiar with.
Learning about each other’s cultures can be enlightening and help you understand each other better. You can talk about music, art, literature, cinema, cuisine, and history. Care to share your own cultural experiences.
No matter what you choose to talk about, just be sure to remain respectful and engaging, and the conversation is sure to flow smoothly.
You can ask her about her hobbies.
What does she like to do in her free time? What kind of hobbies does she enjoy? Ask: Do you have any unusual or interesting hobbies?
If you are both into fitness, talking about your workout routines and healthy eating habits can fill up plenty of time.
If you are both into reading or film/television, then you have a lot to talk about in terms of plot lines, characters, etc. This can be a great way to get to know each other’s interests and perspectives on different issues.
Art lovers can spend hours talking about their favorite paintings, sculptures, and so forth.
Thus, this could be a great topic to talk about with a girl on a date.
There are so many things to talk about with a girl on a date. If you want to get to know her better, you can ask more specific questions about her life experiences. For example, you could ask about a time when she was proud of herself.
Ask her about her best life experiences till date.
Every one has their own best and worst life experiences that they are proud of. Once she shares hers, you can also share yours. This will establish a ground for more conversation.
By life experiences, I mean experiences that are worth remembering for.
Goals And Aspirations
You may be wondering about her goals and aspirations. This is a great topic to discuss on a date, as it can give your date and you some insight into who you are and what you hope to achieve in life.
You could start by talking about goals and aspirations.
What do you hope to achieve in the future? What kind of career do you hope to have? Do you have any skills or talents that you are working on developing?
You can openly yet gently ask her about her long-term career goals, plans for pursuing education further.
You can ask her about her family. How many siblings she has, what their names are, how connected she is with her family, whom she is the closest to and so on.
Ask her about her family tradition, and stories she likes the most. Talk to her about her hometown, how she enjoyed her childhood, being with her family and all.
Through the conversation about her family, you will get to know what values did her family instil in her? What kind of traditions did they have? These kinds of questions can help you get to know her on a deeper level.
Interesting things that happened to her
There are plenty of things to talk about with a girl on a date. The key is to be interesting and engaging. Talk about the interesting things or events that had happened to her.
Ask her to share an interesting incident that she remembered. Allow her to open up and tell everything that she wanted to say.
Her favourite things
You could start by asking her about her favorite things – what she likes to do for fun, what kind of music she is into, what TV shows she is obsessed with.
Once you have got her talking about the things she loves, you will be able to learn more about her and get a better sense of who she is.
Plus, she will feel more comfortable with you and be more likely to open up about other topics.
For example, ask her favourite food, favourite book, favourite place to hang out and so on.
Past relationships only if she is comfortable enough sharing
Past relationships are a touchy subject for many people. Some feel that they are a source of embarrassment, while others see them as a valuable source of experience.
Regardless of how someone feels about their past relationships, it is important to respect their decision to share (or not share) these experiences with you.
If she is comfortable enough to share details about their past relationships with you, you can ask things about her past relationship.
How many relationships did she have?
Why did she breakup?
But it is important to respect her privacy and only ask about past relationships if they are comfortable sharing. If she is not ready to talk about their past, that is OK.
One topic you can bring up is her friends. You can ask her how she knows them, how long they have been friends, and what they like to do together.
Usually, girls love to talk about their friendship. Who is their best friend, enemy, what mischievous things they have done together, and so on. It is fun to discuss all this stuff with your girl on a date.
It will build a rapport and lighten the air. You have to remember that it is a date and dating is supposed to be fun and topics like this will help you know your girl better.
Like she is friends with what kind of people, her inner friend circle, her closeness with her friends, how important friendship is for her.
Pets are always a safe topic, and if she has one, asking about it is a surefire way to get her to open up. What kind of pet does she have? Does she have any funny stories about it? If she does not have a pet, does she want one?
These are some of the common questions around a pet topic that you can ask.
Be interested in hearing stories about her pets. Whether it is something funny, they did or simply how much she loves them, showing enthusiasm will score you points. You can compliment their appearance, behavior, or any other aspect that you genuinely admire.
Music is a great way to connect with people. It is a universal language that everyone can enjoy. When you are on a date, talking about music can help you connect with her on a deeper level.
You can ask:
What is your favourite music? Do you like to listen to the radio or are you more of a Spotify person? What kind of music do you like?
Do you have any favourite artists or bands? What was the first concert you ever went to? Do you play any instruments yourself?
Not only does it give you something to bond over, but it also says a lot about her personality. The music she likes can tell you what kind of person she is – whether she’s laid back or high-strung, fun-loving or serious. And if you share a similar taste in music, then you’re already off to a great start!
Conversation is key to any wonderful date, and there are certain topics that will keep things flowing and help you get to know each other better.
Apart from all the above topics, you can tell her to share the adventure she has encountered with. Any daring or exciting, worth remembering adventure.
For example, I remember when I went on a date with my husband 8 years ago. The definition of date was a bit different from now. It was the more official kind of thing. While talking he asked me if I ever had experienced any daring adventure and I continued telling him a story for straight 10 minutes.
It worked. We laughed, joked and appreciated each other’s company.
What do you think are the things to talk about with a girl on a date?
Career is an important topic because it can help you understand her goals and ambitions in life, and it can also give you some insight into her thought process and how she makes decisions.
You can ask questions like:
What does she do? What did she study at school? What are her goals and aspirations? What is her future aspiration? In what organization she is working? And so on.
What’s new thing happening in life
If you run out of things to say, the date can become awkward and uncomfortable. Apart from asking about family, work, and friends, both might be stuck in a situation where they couldn’t find anything else to talk about.
Instead of making her feel weird and bore, you can turn the table of conversation and ask ‘what’s new thing happening in life?’
Is there anything new happening in the workplace or in her personal life?
If you want to avoid the silence, you can ask her opinion about a trending event or topic.
Here too, do not get involve in political conversations or any other sensitive issues. Probably later you can have a discussion when both are comfortable enough with each other’s presence.
What she loves to do
What she loves to do: This is a great way to get to know someone. Find out what they’re passionate about and see if you have anything in common. Learning about someone’s roots can be interesting, enlightening and helpful in understanding them as a person.
Ask her about what she loves to do. What are her hobbies? What’s the thing that she loves to do the most and could live with it throughout her life.
It might be painting, singing, dancing or any other thing. Whatever it is try to know more about her by asking more questions.
However, you have keep going the conversation interesting enough.
Travel is always a great topic to discuss, and it is something that most people can relate to. Asking her about her travel plans is a great way to get the conversation started. You can find out where she has been, what she is seen, and what she is planning on doing next.
This is also a great opportunity to share your own travel experiences and stories. You can also ask her about any upcoming trips she has planned. Travel is a broad topic with endless possibilities for conversation, so it is sure to keep things interesting.
Quirky questions for fun
If you are looking for something to talk about on a date with a girl, you can’t go wrong with these quirky questions. They will get her talking, and you might even learn something interesting about her.
Here are some things you can bring up on a date that will hopefully lead to some fun banter:
What’s your weirdest phobia?
What would you do with a million dollars?
If you could be any animal, which would you be?
What is the strangest thing you have ever eaten?
What is the best prank you have ever pulled?
What is the most embarrassing thing that has ever happened to you?
If you could have any superpower, what would it be?
Are aliens real, or just a figment of our imagination?
If time travel were possible, where would you go first?
Final Words –
Whether you are going on a first date or have been dating someone for a while, it can be tough to come up with things to talk about. This list should give you a good starting point for conversation.
Remember, the key is to keep things light and fun — avoid topics that might create tension or make either of you uncomfortable. If you find yourselves running out of things to say, do not be afraid to ask questions — sometimes the best conversations are those that are open-ended and allow both of you to share your thoughts freely.