It has been popularly said that the little things in life are what matters the most. In a relationship, when two individual bond, they have a set of different values, opinion, pattern, mindset. The daily habits bring a balance between a couple.
The small, everyday habits that we practice can have a big impact on our relationship with overall happiness.
You couldn’t differentiate what changes it brings in your relationship at the very beginning. Over time, you could feel how incredible daily habits are and how powerful they can be.
Thus, when we see a happy couple, we get curious. How could they be happy and not us? What they are doing and not us?
You might think of the big things that matter. For example, how often do you enjoy spending time? Having vacation? Giving gifts and so on.
Focus on the small things that could add value to your relationship.
Now, why would you believe what I am saying, right? I get it.
That’s why I am giving you an instance from my seven years of relationship.
My husband and I have very few daily habits that we have a mandate in our relationship.
Like, having morning tea together, hugging at least once a day and feeling, kissing each other good night, saying those three little words, sending each other 2-3 lovely messages with emojis and GIF while we are at work and serving each other dinner.
Also, now that we have an added member, we ensure to spend quality time together with our little boy and have a lot of laughs, giggles and cuddling.
I have never been happier in my relationship. I can say, my small world is complete and filled with happiness. Even if there comes tough time, we find ways to smile and happy together.
These daily habits could be anything. May be walking together in the evening could be your thing. Or, watching Netflix every night before bed cuddling makes you happy.
The purpose of these habits is to create a sound foundation and foster a deep sense of connection between partners.
Now, let’s discuss what are those daily habits that you could follow in your life and relationship.
Daily habits of a happy Couple –
Compliment one another
How often do you compliment each other?
We do numerous small things daily for our partners. At least once if we could express our gratitude, it will bring so much positivity into the relationship.
You don’t have to compliment each other every day. But do it frequently and let your partner know that you respect for the things they are doing. Show them the love they deserve.
They say those three little words
Saying “I love you” to your partner is one of the most important things you can do to maintain a strong and healthy relationship.
It’s a way of showing your affection and appreciation for your partner, and it can help to build a deeper level of trust and intimacy between you.
Of course, it’s not enough just to say the words. Say only when you feel it and mean it. If you maintain this daily habit, it will certainly transform your relationship.
It shows that you value them and are grateful for their presence in your life.
My husband doesn’t say ‘I Love You’ much, but I have maintained it from my end.
Whenever I feel saying them, I convey my heart-filled love to him. He might not say anything, but I could see him smile and blush every time, which is enough.
They laugh together
People say laughter is the best medicine. Make each other laugh. Say random gibberish that means and hilarious. Find a reason to laugh at each other. Poke and joke at each other. Open yourself up to each other.
My husband loves making fun of me, precisely, only in front of me not others. He respects me a lot. Sometimes he says things that makes no sense still we laugh. He says and does hilarious things.
I have a bit reserve personality and my husband is my opposite. I am thankful that he could make me laugh.
They are a team
When you are in a relationship for a long time, having each other for a long time, knowing each other, you become ‘one’.
You are a team. You do things together. Take decisions together. You are each other’s support, and one will fall without the other.
Find reasons enough to be a team every day. Do things where both can assist each other.
I am pointing here towards, to do household chores together, clean up your house together or cooking together.
The thing is when you are a team, the works get done easily and fast.
This is something I terribly miss in my relationship. My husband is a bit laid-back, and he hardly lends me his hand for household chores.
To all the husbands, if you are reading ensure be a team and make your wife happy.
Have tea/coffee together
This is one of the simple thing that I cherish the most in my relationship. No matter what and how, my husband and I always ensure that we have our morning tea together while our baby boy sleeps.
Either we talk or just sit together and sip tea, dipping biscuits into it.
So, refreshing and a simple routine.
They do chores together
I believe one of the best ways to nurture your bond with your partner is to do chores together. Not only does this give you quality time to connect, but it also helps you both feel more invested in maintaining your home.
Practically you are doing both. Basic household chores like laundry, cooking, cleaning, washing the dishes, when doing together, both have a common goal. You are just like a roommate.
This is one daily habit that I want every couple to follow. Do not burden one partner doing all the chores while the other sits back and enjoys.
When you are living together, contribute and share.
Spend quality time together
This is the most common thing that everyone will suggest that you do.
But exactly what all small habits can help uplift your relationship?
Daily habits like having morning tea/coffee that we have already discussed.
Then, extremely small habits like cuddling, combing your partner’s hair, 5-minutes of head message every night before bed, and resting your head against his shoulder while standing at the balcony.
I find these habits extremely romantic and a unique way to spend quality time.
Notice the small things of each other
It has long been said that the key to a good relationship is communication.
However, research has shown that there is another important factor in keeping a relationship strong and healthy: paying attention to small details about your partner.
When you notice the minor details about your partner, it shows how much you care about them and know them.
Notice the small things like how they react about a thing, how they react to a particular thing that they love, what exactly they say when they disapproves anything or their change in behavioural pattern for different things and so on.
For example, I know exactly what my husband wants if we go to a mall. I know exactly how he reacts to see a crowd.
If you haven’t do that yet, take time, notice your partner and surprise them.
Encourage to do better
In the modern world, it is difficult to sustain a good lifestyle if both the partners are not earning. It is not necessary that both will do a 9-5 job.
If your partner is willing to start a business or something of their own as a partner, encourage and motivate them. Even if you know they are struggling, your support can give them enough motivation and boost to continue with their work.
This should be your daily habit. Guide each other in doing with the good work and be each other’s back.
They find balance
It is often said that couples who have balance in their relationship are happier and last longer.
Balance does not necessarily mean that both partners have the same hobbies or interests. Instead, both partners must respect and appreciate each other’s differences.
A happy relationship or couple are results of both the partners’ efforts to foster a healthy connection.
There are many things a couple can do to nurture their relationship, developing habits is one of them.
Daily habits can provide a sense of stability as a couple. It also make them feel secure in their relationship.
I have mentioned a countless time on the importance of listening and communication in securing a relationship.
Practice listening to your partner more. During a conversation, lend your ears and listen to what your partner is saying. The more you listen, the better you will understand their opinion, emotions and mindset.
Patience and listening are the two things that have the power to hold a relationship and keep it last longer.
Limit the use of technology when together
Technology has certainly helped everyone in different ways, but it also has a negative impact on our ability to communicate and connect with others.
We are so used to communicate via WhatsApp and Facebook, that we forget to how to do a proper conversation.
This has had a negative impact on the relationship as well.
For example, while having dinner together, we prefer to be in the phones more than we talk to each other. This is the story of every couple, and this has to end.
Thus, take time to put away your phones and focus on interacting with your family or partner will be more helpful.
Send loving text
This is something I love to do as a daily habit exercise.
When my husband is away for work for hours, and I am busy too. We take out time and send loving text to each other. These texts are simple, small messages like ‘I love you’, ‘thinking of you’, ‘What would you like to me to cook for you tonight’ and so on.
When you take out 5 minutes of your time from your busy schedule and texting your partner, it shows you are giving them the importance and expressing your love.
Hug daily at least once with intention
A recent study found that hugging your partner for at least 20 seconds a day can improve your relationship.
The study, which was conducted by researchers at the University of Toronto, found that couples who hugged for at least 20 seconds a day were more likely to report feeling closer to their partner and more satisfied with their relationship.
Hug whenever you can and whenever you want to your partner.
Show Gratitude & kindness
Relationships can be tough. Every relationship goes through problems and almost every relationship struggles to be a happier couple.
Both gratitude and kindness have the power to make the other person feel good.
When you are grateful for your partner and show them kindness, it can help to improve communication, increase intimacy, and promote a sense of trust and cooperation.
Every couple should understand why is it so important to show kindness towards their partner.
They surely make a difference.
For example, a ‘thank you’ is a lovely gesture. Or express your gratitude by writing a note of appreciation to your partner.
You can create a warm and happy environment in your relationship if you let one another grow, be humble and kind.
Do things they like
Even if you are a couple, living together and are in love, giving each other space is crucial.
Remember, both are separate individual having different values, morals, wishes, dreams and so on.
Give each other space to grow. Do not stick to each other like glue because you are insecure. Have enough love, respect and understanding in your relationship and work on building a strong trust level.
For example, if you know your partner loves solo traveling, love to roam around free like a bird, gives them the opportunity to do that.
Respect their space.
Leave notes for each other
Leaving notes for each other is a fun way to let each other know that there is love and care.
Every couple should adapt to this habit to better your relationship.
You can leave a lovely note on your partner’s shirt pocket. Or, could leave a note on the table before you leave for the office?
The purpose is to bring a smile to your partner’s face.
Be thankful to one another
It is always important to remember why you are in a relationship and to be thankful for one another. Sometimes we can forget how special our partners are.
We make the mistake of taking them for granted.
Taking the time to show gratitude is an important part of maintaining a happy and healthy relationship. Remind yourself the thousand reasons to be thankful for your partner.
How your life will be incomplete without them. Find ways to thank and love them.
For example, a simple thank you note would be suffice.
A surprise gift or a date could mean a lot to your partner.
If you want to be in a happy relationship or want to be that ‘happy couple.’
You have to keep patience and work on your relationship. Embrace each other and keep supporting. The daily habits routine is a process. They don’t guarantee a successful relationship. But certainly, if a couple is willing to better their relationship, these simple habits surely help.