Being a newlywed is so exciting, isn’t it? So, how about some relationship advice for the newlywed couples?
I still remember how I felt when I was newly married. The first few days of marriage was so fun and full of excitement.
It’s an entirely new phase of life, promise to spend my whole life with the person whom I love the most, to be with him always and to love him.
I am sure all newlywed couples feel the same. I am now happily married for 3 years, and you can say that I am sufficiently experienced in advising all the newlywed couples relationship goals.
I have learned so many things in my marriage until now and even more to learn. Marriage is a sacred institution where you commit to giving your 100% to keep your relationship happy and secure.
As I said at the very first sentence, “Being newlywed is so exciting. But as a newlywed couple, you will also face challenges in your relationship.
There will be differences in opinion and choices, you both will come to know new things about each other, you will have an argument, there will be tough times when you have to lean on each other.”
Marriage can be full of unpredictable challenges.
My intention isn’t to scare you but to guide all the young and energetic married couples who are yet to explore their marriage by giving some simple yet essential relationship advice.
You might think why do you need relationship advice from a stranger like me?
You can always learn about the relationship from other married couples. Being married, I can give you some tips that helped me, and those advice/tips might be helpful for your relationship too.
Let’s, have a look on the list below and please don’t skip without reading. All the tips that I am going to give, I can assure you they will make your relationship stronger.
Communication is key to any relationship. When you are a newlywed, it is essential to know each other well, and through communication, you can achieve this.
As a newlywed couple, you will want to know each other’s secrets, past, everything. You can start communicating with each other’s likes and dislikes, about their college days or it, could be anything.
So, I have written an article on how and why communication is important and can improve your marriage. If you read the article, you will know that 80% of the problem will get solved if couples maintain the interaction between them.
Learn to understand each other, not compromise
Compromise is a part of every marriage/relationship. Ask your mom or your married friends, they have also compromised in their marriage/relationship.
Now, you may think about why you should compromise?
It would be wrong to say, the bigger the compromise will be the happier you will be in your life.
By compromising, I mean to say, both of you (husband and wife) has to adjust with each other. If you truly understand each other, then whatever you do for her/his’s happiness, you won’t think it as compromising.
Instead of compromise (which brings negativity in a relationship), try to understand what’s necessary for each other. Always remember, do something which brings happiness for both and maintain peace between both.
Once again, communication plays a vital role here.
Cultivate your friendship
As a newlywed couple, both individuals have entered into a new phase of life. Be each other’s best friend and supporter for life.
Cultivate your beautiful relationship into friendship first, where there will be complete freedom and trust for each other.
Remember, how you shared everything with your best friend in school and college. You don’t hide anything from each other.
Likewise, you have to be each other’s best friend for life where each will share everything and hide nothing.
You will see gradually, the trust will begin to grow, and your relationship will get stronger than before.
Do the things that make you like each other more. Talk about everything and be a patient listener.
Do the things that both likes
This is one of the most fun things to do as a newlywed couple.
This is the time when you both are madly in love. You will enjoy doing things together the most. It could be anything like watching a movie together, reading or playing video games, sometimes cooking.
Let me share my experience. After marrying my husband, I moved with him to another city, and we used to travel to places every weekend nearby, loved watching movies. It used to be so much fun, especially because we were a newlywed couple.
It will make you fall in love more as you love spending time together.
Never take your relationship for granted
Always be grateful to each other. Never make a mistake to take your partner/relationship for granted.
I have seen married couples after a few days of marrying, either of the ones takes their relationship for granted. They don’t spend enough time with each other either show loving gestures. As it continues for days and months, they become emotionally disconnected resulting in ‘failed marriage.’
Why the percentage of divorce has risen over the years?
‘Taking each other for granted’ is one of the many reasons. Each has to show their love and let them know how much you are proud of them.
By allowing them to show your love and generous gesture, newlywed couples can make their relationship easily happy.
Note: A relationship where each expresses their love and gratitude freely and consistently, will help to make their relationship strong and genuine.
Stop fighting, give each other time
We all struggle, argue and have differences in opinion but that doesn’t mean to give up on our relationship.
If you read my article on how can you stop fighting in a relationship with zero effort, you will get an overall idea of how to deal with this kind of situation when you are newly married.
Newly married couples fight more often mostly because of differences in opinions and choice as I mentioned above. By giving a short amount of time and space to each other during a fight, will help bring peace.
Space will calm each other’s minds, and then the best possible way to resolve the issue would be to ‘talk.’
Young couple gets angry quickly and says something rude during an argument that hurts the other. Why hurt each other, when you can resolve by communication.
Giving you an example, suppose you and your husband had a bad argument, and you both are hurt.
Both aren’t talking to each other for some time which is good but don’t expect he/she will come first to speak. Instead, you go first and try to communicate calmly and discuss the problem.
Respect each other’s profession in your relationship
Respecting each other’s profession is crucial. Suppose, you are married for a month but your husband remains busy at work or your wife works in a UK shift and comes home late at night.
What will be your approach in this regard?
When you are newlywed, it’s natural that you wish to spend more time together, but either of the one’s profession isn’t allowing you to do that.
Instead of complaining or getting annoyed, try to respect his/her profession and adjust accordingly.
Make sure to spend as much possible time together during the weekends. You can do anything watch movies, go for a walk, enjoy a bath together or cooking. There are tons of things that you can do together on the weekends.
Deal with your finances together
Money causes trouble in the marriage. With the lifestyle that we want to live in, we need money but sometimes with insufficient money when we can’t do the things that we dream of it creates tension between couples.
Now, how to handle the money matter when you are newly married. This is the thing I could tell you very well based on my personal experience.
You all know how expensive living in the city can be. My husband and I faced little money trouble during our newlywed period. With all the expenses on marriage and housing, it left us with little savings.
But I am proud to say that we did manage exceptionally well. We never had any fight related to finances. We were very specific about where and on what to spend our money.
I used to write all our expenses on a small dairy. It really helped me find out where I am more and where I can save. Being newlyweds, we had unlimited fun, we traveled with our limited budget too.
So, you can also deal with your finances as a newly married couple. Set a monthly budget as per your income and learn to enjoy limited things.
Enjoy in doing small things together
Like I always believe, you can enjoy the most when you are doing little things together. You don’t have to go big or do something grand to let each other know your love.
You will find pure happiness in doing small things like doing the chores together, cooking something together, just an evening walk or read her your favorite book.
Don’t Stop date night even after getting married
Yes, go for a date night once or twice a week with no distraction. Often couples stop going on fun and romantic date after a few years of marriage. People think it’s boring.
The purpose of dating is always to engage yourself in a romantic conversation. If you turn your dating night into a habit from the very beginning of your marriage, you will always be that couple who is leading a happy and romantic married life even after 10 years.
Traveling together frequently strengthens a relationship. It will increase understanding and intimacy between couples. Traveling will give an opportunity to know each other better.
Isn’t it a fantastic feeling to explore the new places together?
The entire traveling experience will create memories for both that will be forever cherished.
Listen to each other patiently
Marriage is a long commitment in which you need to make an effort to make it successful. Listening to each other plays a crucial role in this institution.
Don’t think why your spouse didn’t do or that, don’t be judgmental. This will provoke negativity in your relationship.
I have said it earlier in several points that communicate with each other and LISTEN to what you both have to say. Don’t react or put your decision without listening.
Another thing I would like to add on my list of relationship advice here, YOU CAN STOP FIGHTING/ARGUING IF YOU LISTEN TO EACH OTHER PATIENTLY AND COMMUNICATE.
Spice up your marriage
When you are a newlywed couple, you will have the desire to do and stay close to each other. As it is a new phase of your life, you will love to get romantically involved frequently.
What I am trying to say is ‘try to make an effort to spice up your marriage when you feel you are losing it.’
In this progressive and digitally advanced world, we live a life of dullness and repetitiveness which impact our marriage. As a couple both have to bring freshness and warmth in your relationship.
Like traveling, a sudden plan for an outing, playing indoor games or try crafts. These are the small things that break the tediousness of life and make you live a happy married life.
Prioritize each other
Is your partner your first priority?
Your spouse is the most important person in the world to let them know that.
Don’t let any third person coming between you two. Always remember you are two bodies but one soul. Your spouse’s happiness and comfort come first then the rest of the world.
According to Gottman method of relationship theory, ‘building love maps’ is one of the seven principles of maintaining a good relationship/marriage. It is a process or you can say an awareness to know your spouse’s world.
Lastly, make millions of memories together
A newlywed couple must keep in mind that both have to live along a long life so with each experience you create memories and stories that are worth remembering.
Enjoy and love each other to the most and keep creating memories that both can cherish in the later years to come.
I wish all the newlywed couples a happy journey and keep each other happy. I hope you all have enjoyed reading this post on the relationship advice specifically for the newlywed.
Please do write back to me if you have anything to share or ask. I would be delighted to connect with you.